Christmas can put a lot of pressure on people as they feel they should be happy and excited about all the festivities. In fact, it can negatively affect mental health in many ways, especially if:
You have had a relationship break-up or divorce.
Your partner or someone close has passed away.
You can’t be with family because they are too far away.
You are struggling financially and can’t afford to buy presents and Christmas foods.
You have health problems.
People not accepting you or your partner because of racism, sexuality or status or they just don’t like your partner.
You are struggling with alcohol or food addiction, and you are surrounded by excessive amounts of food and drink.
You have flashbacks of previous Christmases that were traumatic and scared of facing it all over again.
Managing finances and people’s expectations can be challenging at such a demanding time of the year. Ways to survive Christmas will be different for everyone but as they say, where there is a will there is a way.
TIPS FOR COPING AT CHRISTMAS
You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. It’s ok not to want to party.
Prioritise what is best for you. If you have lost someone close to you, why not go to a favourite place, or in the country, or by the beach and release some beautiful balloons in their honor.
Plan to pamper yourself with a self-care day dedicated to you.
Reach out to help someone else who needs help.
Focus your attention on someone else who may be in need. E.g., Volunteer at a food shelter for the homeless.
If you are far away from friends and family, arrange a video call at a specific time.
Plan something nice for after Christmas and have something to look forward to.
Make careful choices of who you want to spend time with – you are not obliged to spend it with people you have no time for.
Remember, Christmas is only one day. It doesn’t last forever.
Let Christmas truly be a time of giving.
Give support, care and love to those who need it.
Be a listening ear.
Don’t be judgmental and be open to understanding the needs of others.
Have compassion for those who are hurting.
Be aware.
Reach out.
Be there.
Love
Moira